“I’m too fat”.
“I’m too skinny.”
“I’m too tall.”
“I’m too short.”
“My breasts are too big.”
“My breasts are too small.”
“I talk too much.”
“Ugh, I wish I wasn’t so shy!”
Even though we may not say these statements out loud, at one time or another we are all critical of ourselves. We constantly compare ourselves to other people wondering why can’t we look or BE more like this one or that one.
When are we going to learn that we are all AMAZING individuals who were ALL put here for a reason? Because I am, and you are. We all make up a very unique, integral part of a tapestry; blended together to make a beautiful masterpiece.
So everyday we go kicking up our heels and proclaim how awesome we are!? Hey, why not!? What’s so wrong with thinking that we are fearfully and wonderfully made? We are all unique creations, we each have specific gifts and talents that make us incredible people, yet all too often we harbor a simple comment made by someone, either years ago or even recently. We make that a part of who we are and we end up lowering our opinion of ourselves, when in actual fact, we should have said,”ok, that’s how you feel but I like who I am so thank you, but I’m good.”
Someone once told me, “Denika, I can’t be friends with you, you’re too…too, oh I don’t know, you’re too over the top.”
Well, that hurt. I tend to take things to heart and that one hit me like a sledgehammer. I always knew some people felt I was a little too talkative, or “too excited” and animated but to have it said directly to my face!? OUCH!
I sulked for a few days, I tried to “tone it down” (I know right? Like THAT’S even possible!) In the end, it didn’t work-no kidding right? I had to learn how to take what this person had said to me, realize that this is HER opinion of me, not necessarily what is TRUE of me, and move on, leaving her and her opinion of me behind.
You know what I realized? That doing that, removing myself from negative people and giving myself permission to be exactly who I am is liberating! Ever since that incident, I try to stay as true to myself and who God made me to be, as I possibly can. I’m loud, funny, emotional, exaggerated, and full of life and I will not tone for anyone.